Thu, 10/08/2009 - 22:24
I adopted Ginger 2 months ago. She is 5 months old now. I have 2 other adult male cats, both 7 years old, and she is very close to one of them. My beef is that I am a serious cat lover, and from day one Ginger will not let me hold her. She will come lay by me, when she wants to, and will let me pet her when she wants it, but will not let me pick her up and hold her. If I try and force her she contorts herself and twists and turns and scratches until I give up and either let her go, or she gets away. I'm not a kid, I'm 56, and have never had a cat that refused affection. She is indoor only,as are all my cats. She is so busy playing, and even plays fetch with me, but being unable to hold her really bothers me. Is there anything I can do?
My boyfriend and I have a kitten (he's now almost a year old) but we got him when he was maybe 3 or 4 months old. Snarf didn't didn't like to cuddle too much either because he was busy playing. Snarf is getting better with that now. He maybe will sit on our lap or let us hold him for maybe about 2 minutes now. Which is better. My other cat who is over 10 years old was the same way as a kitten. Didn't like being cuddled too much either and if I did hold him he wanted to run or it wasn't for too long. Now he's a big baby and loves be held and picked up. I think it's an age thing. It comes with age. Just keep being affectionate to the cat and don't lose heart if doesn't want you to hold him. She'll get used to it. All Cats have different personalities. Good luck